The Tao of the Dark Tunnel

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The Tao of the dark tunnel

I can be pretty adventurous and other times I can be a deer in headlights (this is rare for me as I am a Leo) but when this dastardly affliction hits me it can have a great impact on my life!

Think embarrassing ex-boyfriends, bad jobs, impulse buying "the offer ends at midnight” all very time consuming and sometimes painful... I say it's better to make mistakes than have regrets because mistakes are better when they come from desire not fear. (Disclaimer this does not include infidelity or other untoward desires there is no wisdom in the mistake of breaking hearts or addiction)

However there is nothing more paralyzing than fear of a possible outcome such as losing a contract, or making the right decision regarding ones career or running out of petrol whilst one is in the Blackwell tunnel!

The Blackwell tunnel

The Blackwell tunnel is 4,125 feet long.

I have a new car so I didn't really know the the amount of petrol one has in a reserve tank!

The scene

I am driving south of the river and all of a sudden, I am in the tunnel and the petrol light comes on. I am horrified I never go into a tunnel without petrol because well it's dangerous and irresponsible, and I am also very claustrophobic in tunnels!!!

Anyway the day before I was asking a client about her fear and how it affects our choices. So to make an example of myself (I like to practice what I preach). I decided to test the emotional responses to fear

So as the panic and negative self-talk set in I decided to ask myself

What part of me is fearful, where is it located?

What is the wise intuitive part of me saying and what is it saying? Where is it located in my body?

believe me everything slows down especially if your practising deep breathing to calm yourself down

After practising the questions and dialogue the journey through the tunnel was the quickest journey I ever had....

For the key was slowing down and stepping away from the panic or fear by breathing (which we forget to do) also self-talk is a really good way of staying calm. The aim is to talk to yourself like you would talk to a dear friend. This is a good way of calming yourself down so don't beat up or hate on yourself doesn’t help the situation at all.

In my early twenties I suffered from panic attacks and during that time all rationality went out of the window however, a tool I used to get out of the panic state was to give myself positive and reassuring talks rather than run around and create more drama. There are times where the batons of support during fearful times have to be passed to my circle of care/friends/gypsy crew (that’s why it’s important to have good people around you).

The lesson of this journey is balance and being still in a crisis if you cannot do that find a way to get there as soon as you can.

What do you do to remain centred?

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Prince Rogers Nelson and the 'Currency' deception.

On April 21 2016 we lost another great Pioneer and Supernova the Artist Prince.

It has taken me weeks to write this blog as I digested the news of his death.  Looking at the catalogue of Prince'swork is a never ending process, and reading about his Philanthropic endeavors are astounding.

However one of the most important messages that Prince's life and death represented (apart from damn good music ) was that we cannot compromise ourselvestoo much with our creativity and how we put it out in the world.  We are sold a story that success is attained through social media popularity, or belonging to a specific company/label/agency/establishment much to the detriment of our soul and livelihood.

I have conversations daily with people young and old who are trying to '"make it " struggling to be discovered in a complicated paradoxical social media dominated environment.   Success is now based upon reaching 15k fans and selling pee-packaged,reconstructed material that has no real longevity.  We no longer fight against a system that kills authentic expression,  because we are tired,  passive andconditioned due to 'Burnout' and the Age myth.  The most precious currency we can attain as human beings is from the energy we maintain and use to produce a product or a service that is authentic and unique to us. True currency is about our creative and authentic expression, and Prince Rogers Nelson left Earth as a very rich soul who lived out his design in the most uncompromising fashion.  Prince created a currency so vast and full that his mere existence will affect us for years to come energetically, creatively and in terms of ownership of product.     Prince Rogers Nelson's existence on this planet has taught us how to kick arse and do 'your way' which is   another alternative to just existing.

How do you plan to move forward with your gifts? Leave a comment below.  Let us start a revolution!

 

RIP

Catching up with Life and Summer Solstice

 

It has been a while and I keep wanting to write here back again, but I was called away doing several projects that called to my immediate attention (but back to that later)

However convenient Social media can be there is always a high risk of distraction, over stimulation and procrastination.

So I have have given myself a challenge.

From the 24th June until my birthday which is the 24th of JulyI will blog every week, (with a minimum once a week) to feed my writing muse.

Ok…..Deep breath.

So back to projects well there is Wombstories, 30/30 wellness, and our Monthly workshops
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I hope you had a Happy Solstice!

Marilyn x

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